Michelle - I am impressed.- I have a 21 year old granddaughter who is going through the life you describe. We look at her experiences and go through the "she should" and "she coulds" etc. But I believe life has taught us what you allude to - we have no right to force our thoughts on another. I believe if they ask for help we can offer our opinions. However, what if she does what you suggest and it leads to a worse experience. Does one take responsibility? Interesting isn't it. All that aside - your writing keeps me interested and I assume it does for many. Good on you! May your path be sunny and bright…. Zidor