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Listening More, Talking Less
In our digital age, many feel compelled to share their unique views, believing someone out there is seeking them. However, age-old wisdom, like the Yiddish saying, “Give neither counsel nor salt till you are asked for it,” reminds us to be cautious. Sometimes, even with good intentions, unsolicited advice can be intrusive. Essentially, there are moments when it’s better to listen than to speak.
The Awkwardness of “Helping” Without an Invite
Remember that time when a friend dropped a piece of advice you never asked for? It kind of feels like receiving an ugly sweater for your birthday, doesn’t it? No matter how much love and care went into it, sometimes it’s just not the right fit. Sadly, unsolicited advice can sometimes sound patronizing, even when the intention is genuinely to help.
How Unasked Counsel Can Rock the Boat
Every cherished relationship, whether with friends, family, or colleagues, is akin to a delicate dance. An unexpected piece of advice can disrupt the rhythm, similar to a sudden change in a song’s tempo — someone is likely to falter. I came across an old Greek proverb which implies that unsolicited advice can lead to more resentment than appreciation. Even with the best intentions, we might inadvertently make…